The truth always includes it’s opposite, which is why unity and duality are incomplete views. Reality is paradoxical, multivalent and relative. Her-story embraces history like a womb swaddling the universe, the cemetery of potentials not conceived, a comforter to the witness. The sacred masculine aspect of God discerns, purifies, guides, inspires, attempts and governs. It is idealized, shining like a sun. This assertive kind of majesty, without the sacred feminine counterpart, can be fake and even condemning. The feminine, or yin, aspect of God forgives, accepts, includes, recycles, balances, transforms. It is not ideal. It is evolving, naked, imperfect and contradictory. This loose, messy chaos, without the yang counterpart can be meaningless, cruel and confusing. We need both. He is truth. She is paradox. He is morality. She is desire. He is righteousness. She is compassion. Of course words cannot convey truth or mystery. The only way to be acquainted is through experience, which is non-dual. We can only experience through resonance, reflecting what is already present. It is futile to try and separate two sides of the same polarity. The gender terms used here to denote sides of a spectrum are reversible. The aim of recognizing God’s counterpart is to live in relationship, not stereo-typing the sexes. For the purpose of encouraging a way of living that is grateful, reverent and humble, words are used here such as ‘God,’ which is nothing other than reality itself. Life teaches us that our view is not the correct view. It is just a view, hence the need for devotion to something ‘other.’
While both knowledge and wonder are both important, the intention of this post is to highlight wonder, the sacred feminine approach, because it is typically under-rated in today’s society. Wonder is discarded and trodden underfoot, because it is hidden under a guise of ignorance. It is easy to see the harm caused by ignorance in the world. However, the goodness that is showered upon us, even in our ignorance, is often overlooked. There is nothing wrong with not-knowing. Even in our most insightful moments, what we don’t know always far outweighs our intelligence. That is how it will always be in our embodied state, however another kind of knowing is possible when we accept this stance: Inquiry. Inquiry is more expansive than grasping at fixed concepts, while concepts, values, are far more refined. ‘She’ is creation, and creation is ignorance because it is a tapestry of separations. Ignorance is often denied without discovering the precious gift of wonder inside, ‘She’ often gets either lumped in with the single Godhead or misunderstood as heathen, delusional or evil.
All voluntary acts are balanced by a counter force, the force of karma. There is an energetic “bill” of our actions, the balance of cause and effect. Parallel with the rational stream of all we intend, believe and cherish is another current- how our actions really impact the greater whole. Beyond time and space, there is an echo to every deed (including thoughts). This counter-force is something other than the shadow, the shadow being comprised of the blind spots of one’s personality. The sacred feminine brings equilibrium through natural consequences on a much greater scale than one’s personal wisdom faculty and one’s shadow combined. God’s beloved may seem terrible to us, and her mysteries may be confusing and painful for incarnate beings. When considered through a broader lens, we see that karma is benevolent, even though it hurts. What the small self perceives as negative consequences preserve what is right in the higher order of things. Natural consequences are evidence of the team-work, trust and playfulness between the perfect and the evolving aspects of the divine.
Self-justification and complacency are the results of seeing God as only, the good, the pure, the equal, the light and the clear. This disconnect from the ill-will, addiction, contradiction, confusion and ignorance in the world negates the presence of these very forces in us. What is manifest depends largely on how conditions around us cultivate the seeds within, and to whatever degree we train ourselves how we follow through with our decisions. The sacred feminine steers all the chaos ensuing from creation, a meeting in relationship of interdependent, almost entirely powerless, beings towards healing and peace in the end. If he is potentiality, she is process. There would be no such thing as love, nor freedom, if the He-God did not have a mate, if God was single, because true love, trust and freedom require relationship. Respect can only happen in relationship, whether it be romantic, neighborly or universal. Respect is not squeezing the other into a box. It is accepting the other, and oneself, as is.
The solutions to the problems in the world exist, but many people assume they are intangible. It is reasonable to be cynical about this, however the suffering we all experience, when we face corruption inside and outside ourselves, should not be skimmed over as a fluke. It is the activity of God and his counterpart within us. This terrible pain, seeing how far from the ideal humanity is right now, is our own felt experience of the He-God, which lives in all of us. Being vessels of his pain gives us the strength to grow towards our ideals. The healing elixir to this pain is the presence of She-God within, the understanding that we will be forced to make the sacrifices we need to make, whether we like it or not, eventually, by the force of karma. Being a vessel of the pain of the Goddess is the sense of being separate, one who can choose to worship God. Pain is not an accident. Humanity is a bridge, an alchemical transmutation of hope into courage. If we can inhabit the pain between our ideals and our experience, we are serving a the process of him setting his beloved free so that other beings to can experience love.
How can we balance honoring both the yin and the yang? It is innate. If we can learn to trust our inner common sense, everyone naturally learns and appreciates. Despite the entitled attitude consumer culture enables in us to ignore the sacred, God will humble us through humiliating mistakes if we do not consciously choose to revere his beloved, ordinary life, as part of our spiritual outlook. Conversely, if we simply go with the flow and ignore values and ideals, ‘She’ will lead us, through immersion in miracles of simplicity or through “luck” to contemplation and reverence for ‘Him.’ He makes meaning out of pointless existence and she puts our meaning to the test, dismantling our bias. The sacred feminine trains us to worship God, just like he continually reminds us to care about the world. This tension anyone on the spiritual path is the love between God and his counterpart honoring each other through us.
We have failed to reconcile freedom (history) with responsibility (her-story). Being honest is a new kind of religiosity that honors ordinary life just as much as peak experiences. Regular, even down-right awful, moments are just as sacred as glimpses of peace, because they are real. Raw, messy reality teaches us more than personal achievements. It is good to strive towards what is wholesome, but identifying with any side turns a blind eye on the big picture. By remembering she also exists, the divine is uplifted from a concept to a practice, beyond idolatry to the observation of the sacred in every context. The holy life is not about becoming immune to the weaknesses of embodiment. It is about being brave enough to experience this feeling of being alive. For whose feeling is this? Is it mine? Is it yours? Is it theirs?
Believing in only one God that unites everything is tempting. It provides a dissociative escape from the pain that we experience as sentient beings, subject to all life at all times. Believing in no God is tempting as well, however the experience of being blessed and taught by our own biography, despite not knowing much at all, is equivalent to faith and familiar to everyone. Trading my ideal vision of myself for acknowledgment of how I really feel allows for relationship, stepping outside the delusion of safety into a vulnerable community. As we build endurance for the pain of living in separate bodies, “personal life” becomes a portal. Incarnating in time and space, with senses, with a conditioned mind, challenged to know what other beings experience, allows us to witness the majesty of God and his beloved in relationship. God’s love is so great, he set creation free. His trust is so strong that he granted all of us the option to choose whether or not to come back to him. His hidden counterpart has love so great, she assures that every speck of herself, multiplying exponentially, is a story whose moral reflects him. She trusts God so much that she knows he is attentive and patient enough to see each and every story as it unfolds, receiving every detail as a love poem.
The spiritual path is about not obscuring the portal of awareness with self obsession. “I” did not come into this world of pain and oblivion for self aggrandizement. I came to honor God and his beloved and learn about their wisdom and their struggles. I came to praise him by attempting moral acts, and I came to praise her through begging for mercy when I admit how many more harmful than positive acts I am capable of while embodied. Only in this fragmented state can the spiritual qualities of generosity and kindness be developed. Charity is not possible on higher planes where all is omniscient and omnipotent.
The point is, is it right to revere God and for the sacred feminine to remain esoteric, because the good could not exist without, choice, free will, the possibility to err.